There are times in life when we don’t want to face things, where we live in denial for the longest time, performing incredible feats and going to extraordinary lengths to avoid our nemesis at all costs.
I have seen people spin the most incredible stories to escape a task, a situation or a person. They will travel kilometres out of their way, or end up spending hours doing something they don’t want to do in order to avoid doing something they don’t want to do. It changes from person to person, sometimes it’s the credit card bill, sometimes it’s the awkward conversation or a person, sometimes it’s the the pile of socks in the laundry basket (piles in baskets in my case) or painting the fence. But sometimes, it’s something bigger. Sometimes we just can’t deal with the things that we are faced with.
When you talk to someone about it they will (generally) give you good advice, they will tell you what you already know, yet still we are slow to action. Eventually we have to deal with whatever it is, the winds of time will always blow away the sand we bury our heads in. So why, why don’t we just do it in the first place? Have the difficult conversation? Make a budget? Fold the damn socks?
There are a number of things that cause this avoidance; laziness, stubbornness, immaturity, sense of entitlement, conditioning and fear, I’m sure theres more but you get the drift. Fear I hear you ask? Whats there to be afraid of? Well, there’s the fear of being acknowledged as a failure, fear of a negative outcome, fear of change, fear of loosing something or someone, fear of loosing something precious to us, fear of loosing time, fear of unknown and what the future might bring.
But here’s the thing, you need to feel the fear and do it anyway. There is never going to be a better time, or place, or situation - OK, that’s not necessarily true, but you get my drift. As a recovering procrastinator, I can tell you, getting it done changes your world. Do you really want to be in the same situation, with that cloud over your head tomorrow, or next week, or next year? These situations never resolve themselves, sometimes they seem to, but they always come back and bite you in the butt when you’re not looking. A life half lived is no life at all, and once you decide that you are going to do something, that’s half the battle and you WILL feel much better. Trust me, I know ;)
Well I was going to fold the socks tonight but got busy writing so it will have to wait for tomorrow night. Actually something on tomorrow so… no wait, the rest of the week is pretty booked. Next Monday, next Monday I will definitely start folding the socks, just you see if I don’t! When it comes to socks, Just call me Cleo - queen of denial.